Modernizing Islam?

Bismillah

I've noticed lately on forums that I read, lectures that I hear and sites that I visit, that people are trying to modernize Islam. I am of the understanding that it does not need any modernizing at all. I think that over time, like anything else Islam has become Americanized... Muslims now want to celebrate fake holidays like mothers day.. they don't see anything as bid'ah and seem to forget what it even means..
I get called out a lot for being 'judgmental'. I like to see it as my duty as a Muslim to point out to my brothers and sisters what they may be doing wrong. This in itself is very difficult. No one wants to hear it, and everyone seems to resent it. When I try to back myself up with Quran and sunnah people just say I'm too extreme... sigh... whats a girl to do?

We can exist in this modern world without compromising our religion. We don't need to watch 'dancing with the stars', we don't need to participate in made up holidays, and we don't need to listen to the top 40 radio station! I think that we all need to remind ourselves of our purpose in this dunya... to worship Allah alone. To do that, we need to follow his commandments. To do that, we need to expand our knowledge and constantly seek the truth.