Yesterday at work the head of one of the departments came to me with some paperwork that I had done incorrectly. This is my new job, I'm still in training and I was also misguided a bit by someone that helped me prepare the documents. I can admit that the paperwork was incorrect but it was the way that this man acted when he came to tell me. I was up at the copiers and I turned and he was right there.. about a foot away from me, in my face, lamenting that they could not process my request with this paperwork. He proceed to ask me questions that I didn't know the answer too and became more and more belligerent. This really shook me up. Perhaps its because this is a new job and I don't have the confidence to stand up for myself, but I wonder if its just me changing a bit in how I view others and their reactions to me. In my old job, I was an expert at what we did, and if anyone gave me a hard time I put them in their place. Here, I'm new and unsure.
The thing that bothered me the most was the disrespect this MAN was showing to a woman. In Islam brothers respect sisters and know better than to yell in their face. Instead of being the strong woman I once was, I was timid and scared of this altercation. Thankfully it was not just me that thought he was too harsh. Others from the office came and told me not to let it bother me and he was like that with everyone, bla bla bla... but I have to say that I cried in the car on the way home. I hate it that I cried.
I've told myself that I will not accept this behavior again. If it happens one more time I'm going to politely request that this VP/Department head not talk to me like that, and take a step back.