Wednesday, November 28, 2007

Strong woman?

Yesterday at work the head of one of the departments came to me with some paperwork that I had done incorrectly. This is my new job, I'm still in training and I was also misguided a bit by someone that helped me prepare the documents. I can admit that the paperwork was incorrect but it was the way that this man acted when he came to tell me. I was up at the copiers and I turned and he was right there.. about a foot away from me, in my face, lamenting that they could not process my request with this paperwork. He proceed to ask me questions that I didn't know the answer too and became more and more belligerent. This really shook me up. Perhaps its because this is a new job and I don't have the confidence to stand up for myself, but I wonder if its just me changing a bit in how I view others and their reactions to me. In my old job, I was an expert at what we did, and if anyone gave me a hard time I put them in their place. Here, I'm new and unsure.

The thing that bothered me the most was the disrespect this MAN was showing to a woman. In Islam brothers respect sisters and know better than to yell in their face. Instead of being the strong woman I once was, I was timid and scared of this altercation. Thankfully it was not just me that thought he was too harsh. Others from the office came and told me not to let it bother me and he was like that with everyone, bla bla bla... but I have to say that I cried in the car on the way home. I hate it that I cried.

I've told myself that I will not accept this behavior again. If it happens one more time I'm going to politely request that this VP/Department head not talk to me like that, and take a step back.


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Anonymous said...

Salaam Sis,

Sorry to hear about that experience. It has to be hard working in that type of environment. I just recently started wearing hijab all the time and I'm looking for a job, it is very discouraging.

A brother did a lecture, it may have been Bilal Philips and he mentioned that brothers have nothing on the sisters as far as being strong, the sisters go out every day in Hijab and have to deal with so much stuff. It has been rough for me so far, and I really don't feel strong at all...

I know this story wasn't about hijab, but I wonder if that was part of the reason he was so disrespectful and out of line with you, because you're a Muslim woman?

*hugs* Insha Allah it won't happen again, and if it does, I know you know how to handle yourself.


sheyyab said...

assalmu alikum my sister, why should you stay at this job, try to find another or atay at,i realy now know ur feeling when u said to me i wish to set at home. may allah help u much. but realt if there is away to change this work to better job then do ur best.